Legally Divorce

I’m legally considered divorce. This morning I went for court hearing to legalize the dissolve of marriage. It was a speedy process. My case was the first to read, so I just sworn in court, and all I did were to say yes for everything my lawyer has asked me. The same procedure applied to Aaron as well. When both side were done, the judge announced the dissolve of our marriage, and give instruction for further direction in regards to our ancillary issues.

Finally I cleared the first hurdle and to me it felt like a major step ahead. I’m glad that I stayed firm to my decision to divorce now then later. Eventually we will still divorce as I understand I can never tolerate an immature and indecisive partner.

While I’m in Bangkok, I called regularly to the girls, and Dinah complained to me her mistreatment. He couldn’t even stand Dinah sitting next to him that he shouted for Cora to get her to sit away. Instead of addressing her name, he keeps addressing her as “that girl”. I can understand Dinah’s anger and frustration.

I despise him even more. A man vents his frustration on a child. He seriously ought to feel ashamed of himself, but I doubt he feels it. His action just proved right of my decision.

Last night, Cora told me that she intends to carry on working for them, I was aghast. To clarify her statement, I called Aaron’s mother. Indeed Cora was telling the truth, but I also informed her of my decision to bar Cora from coming. Effectively she can continue working for them but she needs not come over anymore.

I can’t bear for another moment of her infringing my privacy and the lack of freedom because of her “spying” on me. I would rather suffer for the time being at least till the ancillary issues iron out than to use her.

Indeed it will not be easy for me, since all will be in the childcare and student care but at least I have a peace of mind at home. Fortunately I have a set of supportive parents who agree to help me when I’m studying.

Definitely it’s not going to be a long term measure but for now that’s our arrangement. His mother upon hearing my arrangement feels uncomfortable and tried to persuade me to hire a maid. But she did not factor in the financial aspect. If I can afford, I will do so, but reality is my financial doesn’t allow me to do so.

I can sense that our conversation was leading nowhere, thus I ended with telling her to pray to the lord for guidance. Its meaningless arguing what should be done when I am pretty firm on my stand……………..

I doubt she will stop at there, but let take a step at a time, like I told her she can’t expect me to be clairvoyant. Let live as if we only have today, but we definitely can plan as if we live forever………………….