Desert Flower (Book) & An eventful day

I finished reading this book in the wee hour of Sunday morning. Saturday after lesson I met Huijun for dinner @ Grand Copthorne Waterfront Hotel. We went for the international buffet.

We are their “first” customer, as the buffet start at 6.30 but we reach there at 6pm. The buffet was sumptuous. There’s a lot of cuisine to choose from.

We stayed till 12am. It was a nice to eat & indulge in the atmosphere without worrying about food and drink. When it was time to foot the bill, I was shocked to see that the buffet costs $64.25 per person, and we are not entitled to any discount. We do not have any AMEX or M Hotel membership card.

Sadly, I passed my card to the manager. Suddenly, he came back and told us he’s giving us 50% membership discount but we have to pay cash as the membership’s name and my credit card name won’t tally.

We’re abit confused by the sudden turn of event, and asked him for more details. Apparently the manager gave us member’s discount out of goodwill. The membership fee costs $300, and we are grateful to the manager for his generosity. Huijun and I are contemplating whether to apply for the membership since we love eating buffet.

I was in total good mood when I reached home that I’ve difficulty falling asleep. Thus I decided to finish my book where I left off few days ago.

The book was about the transformation of this Somali model, named Waris Dirie. She’s from a nomad family in Africa. The hardships she experienced as a child just dwell on me that I’ve a blessed childhood.

At a tender age, she already tending to camels & cows and helping her mother to look after younger siblings. I’m definitely unable to do all these when I’m her age.

She also detailed the agony of female genital mutilation. It was horrid whenever I visualize the scene, and she’s only 5 years old back then.

In their culture, girls undergo circumcision is like entering womanhood, and considered “clean”, more “market value”. After the circumcision, urinating & later menstruating became a torture for her. The gypsy woman sewed “it” way too tight, till the “water” can only flow 1 drop at a time. It was later when she started becoming a model then she had a surgery to rectify the pain.

At the age of 13, her father had arranged a marriage for her to a much older man. She fled the arrangement. During the fleeing process, she almost got raped and had a few brushes with death encounter. She went to her sister, then from relatives to relatives seeking shelter and worked for them. Once she overheard her auntie’s conversation, and pleaded earnestly to allow her to work as a maid in London for one of her auntie.

She got her wish granted, and she went there. Throughout she worked as a slave for her auntie, till one day her uncle position as ambassador has ended and they are all going back to Somali, and she refused. Using her wits, she finally stayed in London alone. To survive, she started working as cleaner in MacDonald.

Later she was discovered by a renowned photographer, and as they say the rest is history. Gradually she embarked on her journey to become a supermodel. On the peak of her career, she quit to devout full time to charity work, especially in the area of female genital mutilation…..

It was a nice book worth reading. I just couldn’t put it down. While I’m enjoying my book, a guy sent a message to me. I was shocked when I read the content, it was very offensive and disrespect. We aren’t that close, more like acquaintances than friends, I find his message very rude.

I ignored him and guess what he message me again yesterday morning to apologize for his message. I told him off and asked him to show some respect to gal. I start to be very cautious of guys. They seems to have a motive… It's demoralising whenever I encounter this type of incident….

Enough of Weirdos~~~

Yesterday finally I got some well needed rest. I was so tired from the consecutive night out that I couldn’t take it.

After church, I went home and skipped my lunch, jumped straight to bed and napped. I felt rejuvenated from the nap, and decided to cook dinner. I’ve not cooked for very long….

I prepared all the ingredients and started cooking when my phone rang. I thought it was my mum, but it was Aaron. I was cautious. My experiences tell me that it’s never any good new whenever Aaron calls.

The moment I answered he started questioning me, and demanded to know if I’ve a boyfriend and I ever bring any guy to “his” flat…..

I scolded him and reminded him that he’s in no position to know my personal life. Whether I’m dating or not is none of his business, we are over and he can’t accuse me of anything.

I did tell him that I’m not dating but that doesn’t mean I won’t date in the future. I told him this will be the last time I will reveal my personal life to him, and asked him to always remember we are no longer related to each other…..

Saturday one weird guy, and yesterday another, I was really thinking are they sharing some kind of telepathy….Both of them must ruined my day. I started off fine but ended up frustrated….

One get unhappy over me busy meeting friends, another get upset over me going out with guys….I don’t know what is wrong with both of them and I’m not interested to know…I just need them to give me peace…..

Relaxation end up ruin~~~

Saturday (19/06/2010), I meet Huijun again to dye hair in the evening. I was still tired from the previous day. I hardly catch sufficient sleep. I woke up early for my dental appointment.

We went to Far East Plaza (her regular hairstylist). The plan initially was to accompany her, as she wanted to do hair treatment. Later I was tempted to dye my hair, and I joined in as well.

The whole process was long. I was hungry and tired while waiting for it to finish. Later we went to TCC for dinner. I seem to encounter bad service whenever I’m with her. As usual, we always chat after our meal but never the staffs chase us out. Anyway if we see crowds, we will quickly finish our meal and off we go….

But that day no crowd and this waiter came to our table and asked us for any last order (the TCC opened 24 hours). When we said no, he cleared our glasses without asking. I was flabbergasted with this type of service, and feedback to the manager.

We went to Xin Wang @ ION feeling all frustrated from their service. We saw our secondary school classmate, and expectedly he ignored us. I suspected he has self-esteem problem.

There’s this young waiter who is very interesting. He served us our drinks, and suddenly told me he remembered me. To be polite, I said I remembered him too. I do have a vague impression of him. (We first came there last year, and Huijun keep finding our ex-classmate familiar so she asked this same young waiter to verify for us.)

So here we are again me & Huijun. He said he remembered my smile, I was taken aback and later asked Huijun whether I laughed too loud, that’s why he remembered.

Anyway out of courtesy, I asked him his name and age. He’s nice keeps reminding us if we need to order can tell him. Compared to TCC, this service is definitely much better.

We stayed till 1+am, and left for home. While on my way home, I remembered to reply Guolin’s msn (he sent the previous day).

Our conversation seems to side track a lot. He kind of made me regret replying him. I should have ignored. Honestly I was hesitant in replying initially, but on the account that we are classmates, I replied.

It will be better if our conversation be normal and not him asking me some weird question….Let our past be buried and not bring it up again…..

Irritating~~~

I strongly believe Aaron daily goal is to think of different means to make my life difficult. Last Wednesday, my lawyer attends a court session on my behalf as Aaron has sought clarification of the court order.

Apparently during one of our much mediation we did discuss about the renovation loan but it was never firmly concluded and definitely not included in the order. So technically speaking, there’s nothing Aaron can do about it other than varying the order.

Learn from my lawyer that Aaron intends to vary the order. Now my wish is to regain slight normalcy in my life. I’m tired of Aaron’s childish and selfish way....why can’t he move on his life!!!

I’ve enough of my own problem and I’m grateful if Aaron doesn’t add onto my problem.....

Collection of papers....

This afternoon I went to Legal Aid to collect my interim judgment, making interim judgment final and order of court.

I’ve a mixture of feeling when I was handed the official documents. Part of me feels glad that finally a chapter closed but part of me feels sad that I can’t salvage my marriage. Till now I still blamed Aaron for not cherishing our marriage, yet I know blaming him will not alter the fact that we are divorced.

Last year at this time, I was still contemplating whether divorce was the solution for me and now I’ve made the choice.

I used to think that Aaron will be my other half. To see my belief fallen apart is sad for me but our differences are just getting wider and wider that I find it harder and harder to bridge it. I find suffocating and stiffening staying with him.

I just pray that Aaron and I will be able to maintain a cordial relationship for the sake of the children… I pray that Aaron will be released from his emotional bondages and grow up to be a mature, responsible, independent and considerate father and person…..

Sickness & Worries~~~

On Thursday (13/5/10), I forced myself to work despite I’m feeling very unwell. But I work less than an hour later, I became weaker and fever started climbing higher.

Feeling worse, I gave up and went to see a doctor. I was given sick leave for Thursday and Friday. I felt so bad to break the new to my manager as I’ve been unwell for the past few days.

Conclusion is that this month is really a sick month for me. My immune system has been working against me.

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Friday when I was the sickest, Aaron came home. I was visibly taken aback. I felt like questioning him but too weak. His presence really makes my illness worse. I wonder what his motive is. Perhaps he’s trying to make one last attempt in persuading me but too prideful to do so (divorce paper is out & I can collect tomorrow).

Whatever his reason, I will not change my decision….Our marriage is over and he has to face it.

Saturday the moment he woke up, he disrupted my peaceful nap. I was so drowsy when I heard him shouting. I quickly thought of Dinah and Naomi. True to my fear, they were hiding in the bathroom. I hold them close and bring them back to the room. While passing him, he started scolding Dinah. I was so mad, I wanted to scream at him but my bad voice doesn’t allow.

Once in the room, I called his mother, and demanded that she better get Aaron out of my flat, else I’m going to force him out of here. (I intended to call the police for help.)

Thank goodness, she manages to get Aaron to leave my flat. I tell her that this shall be the last time I ever want to see him up in my flat.

I understand Aaron still can’t let goes of the marriage but my feeling for him has turned into disgust and fear. Disgusted by his apparent lack of responsibility and fearful of his unpredictable behaviors, which leave me very cautious when dealing with him.

To me he’s like a ticking bomb ready to explode anytime and I fear the worst for my daughters. I’ve no idea what he might do to them and whether he will ever carry out his threat…

I hope time will get him to move on his life and let goes of our failed marriage……

Greatest Decision....

I’ve made a decision which will always be embedded in my memory for as long as I live. I wonder if this decision will affect my view or path down the road but I’m looking to the Lord for guidance.

It’s a decision that I’ve never want to take given a choice. I don’t know if I will regret in the future or should I say the future holds a lot of uncertainty to me… I can only pray that God can calm our greatest fear….

I hope time will heal…

True Color~~~

I wonder why it is so hard to be sincere with friends. Why must friends lie to one another?

I always believe the basic underlying in friendship is sincerity and honesty, but Alex proved my belief wrong.

I used to trust in his character but not anymore. He’s the best to think he can hide his relationship for so long and at the same time keep asking me to introduce gals to him. Thank god, I never or else my conscience will always bug at me. Come to think of it, he’s worse than my ex-boyfriend as he even told me how nasty it is to hide a relationship, and yet he’s doing that. What a lousy character! When you criticize others, please check if you are one of those. If you are, then you are not in the position to criticize.

I don’t know his reason for lying to people neither do I care but I sympathizes his girlfriend who is in China. As a lady’s perspective, I would be very upset & disappointed if my boyfriend chooses not to reveal our relationship and even claim he is single. How nasty!

Hiding for almost 2 years, keep saying you are single and keep flirting with gals is horrible. It’s not being faithful to your girlfriend and show how lousy a person character is. I simply hate this type of guy. They can never be my ‘clicks’ as I will always look at them with disdainful eyes perhaps just acquaintances. Like I always say look is not the whole beauty, good character makes it whole but if the character sucks then the person is totally ugly. No physically attractiveness + no character = ugly.

It takes me so long to see his true color……Better late than never.....

Durian Fondue with Ching....

Saturday (24/04/10), I went to Jurong Point to meet Ching after lesson in the late afternoon.

We have meal at Lai Lai and shopped around (mainly me) trying out some chest “tightening” dresses that almost suffocate me at Yatch 21.

There was some show going on and we are amazed by how they can turn the connecting bridge into a fashion walkway, but I sympathizes the models having to walk so much….

Oh the models are really thin and tall, they are depriving the enjoyment of life (eating)….

After a brief shopping, we went to try out the durian fondue which wasn’t that fantastic but we still finished and we stayed there till the shop closed….

Nothing much but at least we catch up….

Cafe of thought...

Last night after work, I and my colleagues went to TCC at Raffles place. I quite like the ambience. It was soothing and relaxing, a perfect place for chill out after a hectic day of work.

It was really enjoyable talking crap and stuffs with an all girls group. It’s not a frequent outing since each of us has our own business e.g. studying, other friends, spouse etc. But it’s still nice to have gathering as and when.

But it gives me the thought of researching what I really want to do during my extra time. My life can’t be always revolving around the girls, work and studying. Even though I have friends but most of them have their partner or activities to occupy them, I need to be more self-reliant.

Therefore I have to start to think deeper into that area, perhaps do something meaningful, which is something I feel more enriching to me…

New Beginning~~

Last night, I've an open talk with my boyfriend. We both agree that we are not compatible for each other & we are better being friends. Son we break up...

Actually for quite sometime my instinct has already warned me that our relationship is not right.

I just can't pinpoint where isn't right. I'm waiting for a chance to talk to him but he keeps avoiding me.

Finally last night he decided to break the ice & talked to me. When he says he has thing to talk to me, I know what is it regarding.

I feel better after we talk but I find his reason for breaking irresponsible.

He said he can't accept my divorce status & I've 3 kids, which I find not very gentleman.

He knows my status when he befriends me & court me.

To cut the story short, he doesn't know what he wants. He's liked a fisherman casting his net, trying to catch many fishes.

After catching all the fishes, he starts to select his catch. Depsite I'm disgusted by his insincerity and dishonesty but I feel so much burden free and delighted (surprisingly).

Conclusion he's immature & unsuitable for me....

Need a break!!!

16/4/10 (Friday), I went down to court hopefully for the last time which I doubt so. On the 12/03/10 (Friday), we actually have agreed on the terms of the divorce and an order has been recorded.

After all the order has been recorded and done with, Aaron decided to change his mind and wanted to insert new terms into the order resulting in a delay in the extraction of the court order, thus resulted in 16/04/10 mediation.

On the 15/04/10, Aaron called to persuade me to reconcile which I have made it clear to him that I will not change my mind. Upon hearing this, he became agitated and I knew he will make life difficult for me. He threatens to bring the case for hearing.

I need not be clairvoyance but I surely know his character well enough. And true to my expectation, he not only wanted me to take over the renovation loan but he wanted to change the children’s access, flat issues and his credit cards debts. But I’ve checked with my lawyer and she has already advised me that he can’t change the order let alone bring the case for hearing. The case has been considered resolved on the 12/03/10, thus today purpose is to see if I agreed to take over the renovation loan. If I refused, there’s nothing he can do and my lawyer can still extract the order even without his lawyer signature. To summarise, the mediation is to get the judge approval to extract order without their signatures.

Aaron was furious when he knew that he can’t have his ways and he vowed to vary the order. I know what’s entailing me but I can’t stop him either. What a frustrating feeling!

In the late afternoon after the mediation, Aaron called and demanded me to return some money which he used to buy Naomi’s milk powder. I never expect him to start creating trouble for me so fast and we have an argument. Seriously, Aaron is the only person capable of bringing the worst mood out of me. Already my mood wasn’t that good despite knowing that I can get the order soon but going to court is really a terrifying experience for me and can be emotionally draining. Court will be the last place I ever wanted to step in again... Most importantly, I hope my case with Aaron can have a closing once and for all....

Feeling the emotional drainage, I’m dealt with another frustrating matter. My boyfriend knowing that I’ve attended court and feeling the heat chose to meet his pre-arranged friends instead of me. If not for my friends accompanying me, I will be backed home alone (they have brought the girls to their place so no dinner for me). I’m blessed to have friends who showed me so much concern. They knew that my mood will be affected and they treated me for a meal and kept me company.

The sad part is my friends showed me more concern than my boyfriend. My friends’ advice is that something fishy is about this boyfriend of mine. I too can feel it but I can’t find the right words to describe it. I believe it’s either he’s not serious and committed or he simply treats me as a substitute for his friends...

His apparent lack of concern is really inexcusable and I start to drag playing minds games with him. I decided to take a break from this relationship. If he can’t share my burden at least don’t add on to my existing burden. I believe that God will have the right one for me. I want a guy who can show me concern and treat me really like his girlfriend......

Stressful periods!!!

I think I make a rush decision in dating my boyfriend. I start to wonder if we are progressing too fast. Perhaps we need to think thoroughly. I don’t know about him but I definitely needed that.

A woman’s intuition never fails. I feel insecure in this relationship and in return I don’t feel the need to put in effort to understand or even make this relationship better. My perspective is just continued and sees where it leads. But inner most, I’m prepared for the break-up. I don’t know how to express but I’m aware that this relationship won’t last.

Now my priority is not this relationship but rather my case. I hate the uncertainty and the continuous guessing of the outcome for my case. I pray for the best but at the same time I must prepare for the worst. Contradicting isn’t it?

This case weighs heavily in me and as long as it remains unresolved I won’t have any mood for relationship. This case is really eating up on me. Nevertheless I will not let my personal problem affects my work and children. Easier says than done but I will work towards it with my very best....

This year Lunar New Year coincides with Valentines Day.

This year I did not follow my usual routine of visiting my grandmother first instead I went for church service.

Morning we went for the 1st service, and then we went for lunch. Most restaurants aren’t opened as expected. We finally settled for the only Chinese restaurants opened in Suntec, but it was a very long wait even for the menu.

Next we proceeded to Aaron’s maternal uncle for gathering. Finally we went to Aaron’s grandmother (paternal) place for gathering.

Our way of celebrating Valentines Day is watching movie. I wanted to watch Percy Jackson and the lighting thief but ticket was sold out and most movies were either selling fast or sold out, thus we settled on Little Big Soldiers.

It was supposed to be a comedy film but I don’t find so. The ending was unexpected and the actions were so-so.

The backdrop was set during the Warring Period where minor states were vying for bigger piece of lands.

It’s about an ordinary soldier (Jackie Chan) saving an enemy general (Wang Lee Hom). His intention was to capture him alive so that he can claimed reward and be exempted from serving in the army. He did not know that the “general” he captured was actually a crown prince and the crown prince’s younger brother was eyeing to kill him and be the future ruler of their state.

Along their journey, they encountered bandits and trapped. Eventually Jackie Chan freed the “general”.

It ended with Jackie Chan being killed by invading troops upon reaching his homeland.

After the show, we headed home exhausted. The next few days of the New Year we have been visiting relatives and ate non-stop. I hardly get to rest at home. What a waste of such a long weekend…..

Summary of events

So long never update my blog, life has been hectic for me as Cora went back to her home country for a holiday. She came back on the 09 January 2010 and she left on the 24 December 2009.

Everyday I was busy juggling with the housework, the girls’ routines, work and study. Those days that I’m studying, my mum will help me to look after the girls.

Thank god, end of December was marked with few long weekend, thus I’m able to rejuvenate myself.

Even though, I was busy with all these mundane chores but I managed to find time to read book and catch up with my friends.



I finished reading this book called – Out of the Dark on the 26 December 2009. It was a biography of Linda Caine and Robin Royston. Linda is the main character and Robin is her doctor-in-charge.

It revealed about her inner turmoil and the dark secret she has chosen to forget. Linda has everything a woman ask for, a loving husband, 2 wonderful children and she needs not worry about financial as her husband is a solicitor. Thing look bright to her but deep inside her, she is suffering from darkness. Inside her it seems like darkness is plaguing her world.

Eventually she broke down and her road to recovery was maimed by her “forgotten” memory. When she eventually recalled her memory, she sank further into her world. After peddling through the mud, she came out to reveal her story to the world on her road to recovery.

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On the 03 January 2010, I met up with Huijun at Orchard to pass her Christmas present. We shopped around before settling down at café to have light meal. I brought along Natasha as my parents-in-law couldn’t handle her. She can be mischievous at time.

The only regret was I have to leave right after dinner to rush home to fetch Dinah and Naomi, as my mother-in-law was attending a wedding dinner that night.

But at least I get to unwind and catch up with her for a short while.

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On the 10 January 2010, I and Ching went to watch Avatar (3D) at Singapore Discovery Centre. I enjoyed watching that movie, but I hated wearing the 3D glasses. It gave me headache. The show was set at 2154 in another planet called Pandora.

A group of profit making human was trying to exploit the ecosystem, and the vast raw material they are eyeing are situated at the base of the Navi’s (humanoid) home.

As human is unable to breathe the air in Pandora, thus they created avatar. It’s a mixture of human DNA with the Navi’s DNA. The body was lifeless by itself. To create life to the avatar is to use the owner’s brain activity controlled by computer, thereby eliminate actual human involvement.

Jack Scully a paraplegic was involved in this project after his identical twin was murdered, as they need similar DNA to activate his twin brother’s avatar. He was roped further into the project when they realized the Navi trusted him and enrobed him into their clan.

His initial aim is to find way to persuade the Navi to move their home or find their weaknesses but gradually he fell in love with Netriyi, their clan princess and they mated.

In the end, he chose to defend the Navi and abandoned human kind. He won the fight against his kind and with the help of Netriyi’s mother; his soul was transferred to the avatar forever.

After the show, we went to Jurong Point for dinner and shopping. But I guessed we spent mostly at the café listening to her trip at China. It was an eye-opener. I guessed we are culturally, hygienically and language ally unused to them. We did not stay for long and left since we all have to work and study the next day………

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Storm Warriors 2

Friday (11/12/09), Luisa and I went to watch The Storm Warriors. After 11 years from the 1st part, I would expect the 2nd part to be better, since now it’s better equipped with the latest technology.

But what a disappointment it turned out to be. The fighting scenes were too unreal and animated. There weren’t many dialogs.

I would say the plot was not up to expectation. But these are my personal opinion. There might be others who will like it. From the ending, it’s seems to me that there will be part 3, which I doubt I will watch it other than renting the DVD.

Prior to the movie, we went shopping. We deliberately booked for the midnight show, so we have ample time to shop around.

In the end, I was the one who bought thing and Luisa bought none. She has more determination than me. I bought vitamins, facial product, and a dress.

But I guessed we do more cranky stuffs, more like I’m the one. We went to several shops and I tried on lots of hair accessories, weird sunglasses, masks and hats. My way of unwind after a day of hard work.

We don’t get to wear all these items during normal days, so it’s best to just try on in the shops, and who know maybe we can find something that suit us. For me, I realized wearing hair accessories look nice on short hair and my face shape……

Therefore I will try to experiment with different look, it’s a good way to explore different outlook.

Untactfulness kill

Last night Aaron called me. I wasn’t surprised, I guessed I was expecting him to call soon but I disliked talking to him. Apparently we can’t strike a normal conversation without an argument arises.

I missed his calls several times not because I don’t want to answer but I’m on the line with his mum to discuss about Cora’s vacation and making back-up plan during those weeks when she’s not around.

If I picked up his call, it will definitely destroy my calmness in logical thinking. I decided priority is Dinah’s welfare as Cora not around has affected Dinah’s welfare not so much of Naomi and Natasha as they are both in childcare.

After I hung up with his mum, I called my mum to amend our prior arrangement. It’s always sweet to have parents’ support and I’m grateful to them. They are always around to help me out during my difficult time.

During these calls to my mum or his mum, he kept calling my mobile. I chose to ignore. When all was done, then I called him (basic courtesy). Unsurprisingly, out conversation turned to be an argument.

I have tried my very best to calm the whole conversation but unsuccessful. I can only say he’s very untactful with his words and it’s very offensive.

Aaron must learn to show sincerity or else he won’t keep anyone close to him for long other than his parents……………

Shopping & Sharon's Wedding......

Friday (04/12/09), Huijun and I went to J8 shopping. I guessed it’s more like chatting outing.

So happened that day both of us was in foul mood therefore there were a lot of thing to share. It was always great meeting her for casual and sometimes secret chat…..

We did go shopping after dinner, and both of us bought earrings, then we headed to coffee beans for relaxation….

I guessed she must be very vexed over her issues with her family as well as her boyfriend. The only thing I can do is shared her problem with her and at the same time offered her some solutions…….

We did not stay late as next day morning I’ve to be woken up early for Sharon’s wedding. Actually I don’t feel like going not because of her but I feel out of place hanging out with her relatives who apparently do not like me. I presumed it’s due to my divorce with Aaron.

I did try turning it down but Sharon’s mum (my ex-mother-in-law) kept insisting I turned up on the pretext that it will be fun. I really do not wish to reject her good intention at least that what I think so…..

Therefore we headed home before midnight and I have to say my mood did lighten a lot aftermath……

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Saturday (05/12/09), its Sharon’s wedding. Early in the morning we (me and the girls) went to their place for the gate crashing. To think it’s a Saturday and I still have to wake up early but for her big day its fine.

We reached there before 8am but I was too tired too feel hungry. We went to Sharon’s room and she was all ready in her makeup and gown. She really looked stunning. No wonder they say bride always look the most beautiful. I truly believe when I see her…..

The girls were excited too except for Naomi. She kept clinging onto me and refused to take any pictures with Sharon.

But I wouldn’t say that to her relatives. They surely didn’t seem happy to see me, especially the grandmothers. It was really just what I have expected. I sat separately from them. I stayed with the girls at the dinning area watching cartoon.

Before 9am, Sharon’s friends were all here to get prepared for the tricks that will be awaiting the groom. They prepared lot of exotic drinks and tricks for the groom and his friends.

At 9am, the groom and his friends were here. They went through lot of obstacles before the groom got to see the bride. Dinah was particularly excited and before we noticed, she was already one of the fun-maker in the sister’s gang. She was standing right in front instructing the groom (Kenny) and his friends to do funny actions. I think she’s really very engrossed and into it….. I’m glad she enjoyed herself so much.

After the gate crashing, it’s the tea ceremony. Of course, we are more like spectators but it was over very soon. After all the photos taking, they left to Kenny’s house for another tea ceremony.

We waited until 11am for our lunch, but it was all Muslim foods. I hardly ate the food and the girls ate instant noodle and that’s it.

We were supposed to leave after lunch but they wanted Cora to stay behind to clear the dishes, thus I went home first with the girls.

Cora was supposed to be home before 1pm, but I waited to no avail, so I asked my neighbor to help look after the girls for a while. I explained briefly and dashed off. Thank goodness the girls are perfectly fine with Auntie Suzie.

Throughout the afternoon, I was rushing from one place to the other to get thing done. It lasted till we reached Raffles Hotel, then I’m able to rest a while. But not for long, I’m on the go again – to make up for the girls and getting them prepared for the entrance.

Natasha followed me too closely at least she never cried which was good already, but her sisters did a wonderful job. While the pastor was blessing their marriage, I was busy looking after Natasha.

After the solemnization, we headed to the ballroom to get a drink before heading back to the suite to change the girls’ dresses. I managed to steal some rest time before we headed back to the ballroom for the dinner.

We reached home after midnight and were totally exhausted. The next day we hardly managed to get out of bed.

Still the girls seemed to have an enjoyable and memorable day……………….

Long weekend......

Friday (27/11/09), we went to AMK hub to celebrate my maternal grandmother’s birthday. Coincidentally, her birthday fell on a public holiday.

We went there for lunch at the Soup Restaurant. The food was nice and I definitely would bring my family there again. That day my uncle even bought each of them a present. I guessed it was pre-Christmas presents.

It was a very nice gesture indeed but my mum kept asking me to stop him. I ended up being sandwiched by them. I gave up with their little struggle and walked off.

After lunch, we went to NTUC to buy groceries for my grandmother, before my parents sent her back to the old folk home.

Even though it was a short trip but I could see that my grandmother was full of joy. A simple act of eating and strolling can bring so much joy to her…….

After they left, I and the girls continued shopping around before we headed home too. From this celebration, I realized that it’s the thought that really count when celebrating one’s birthday………..
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Saturday (28/11/09), I and Huijun went to do our pap smear. It was her first time thus she’s very nervous and embarrassed as well.

I did my pap smear first then her. For me everything was quick perhaps it was another routine checkup for me and the gynae has been seeing me for years.

For Huijun it took a bit of time as the gynae need to find out for more of her history and a more detail checkup. After her pap smear, the doctor delivered a few pieces of bad news which I don’t think it would be nice divulging without her permission. After all I believed she would like it to be confidential. It’s not life threatening but it’s definitely not a good new to her…… At least that’s what I feel……

Next we went to Orchard shopping. I guessed shopping lifted her mood considerably but there’s other thing bothering her who I guessed it’s relationship……

Nevertheless, we managed to have an enjoyable shopping as well as chatting……….
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Sunday (29/11/09), we went to Raffles hotel for Sharon’s wedding rehearsal. It was really a hot day to have wedding rehearsal.

The girls practiced a few rounds of scattering the flowers but not very successful as Natasha kept wandered off.

Natasha is just too young to understand instruction let alone followed them accordingly. Thank goodness, Dinah and Naomi are big enough to do it correctly……

After a few round of testing, we went to Far East Plaza to alter Aaron’s mum evening gown.

Somehow I enjoyed that day which I can’t explain why either…………… Now only left with the big day on this coming Saturday (05/12/09)…………

Exams hiccup

Last week (24/11/09), I finished my last paper. I was so glad and relieved that it was over.

Among the three papers I took, my first paper was the worst I felt. I totally had no confident. But to worry over spilled milk seemed useless; I can only prayed for the best.

My first paper I already felt demoralized, but my second paper I felt even worse, not due to the difficulty of the paper but I discovered some shocking revelation from my classmates.

That day I reached the school early, and casually talked to my classmates, from him I realized that many of my classmates whose diploma is IT, got exempted for related modules, but I wasn’t at all.

I felt the unfairness and I lost my concentration during the exam. I still managed to finish off confidently but the news kept weighing heavily in my mind.

During my last paper, I went to the student service centre and demanded to speak to my coordinator, and I reasoned with her in regard to my exemption. She kept insisting that there’s no mistake on their part but I just wanted her to send my transcript to the university to verify if there’s really no exemption for me. Eventually she relented and agreed to check for me, but I have my doubt in her ability……….

Nevertheless I will still giver her the benefit of doubt and after 2 weeks still no new then I will find out from her.