Settlement - Naomi

Friday(19/09/08) night, I SMS Aaron to come home, hoping to resolve Naomi routine issues. I was sleeping when he called me. Thank goodness, I've placed a latch onto the door, else I will be scared again. He treated the home like hotel comes and goes as he pleased.
When I sent the SMS, he never replied(as usual), I never knew whether he will be backed as I requested.
Oh well, he's backed at least. I went straight to the my agenda. I tried to stategize my words, as advised by the counsellor, apparently that failed.
He's very indecisive, can't give me an answer, need to think over the weekend.
I don't see why he can't decide for himself, must everything go through his parents. I just told him: "I've no objection in you bringing Naomi out, you are her father, but could you at least SMS one day in advance of your planning, so that I could prepare her mentally. I believe you want her to be happy when she sees you, and not confused. The teachers have feedbacked that she's affected by all this sudden appearances during her naptime. Previously, you have never brought her out during her naptime, but lately since weekly. Children prefer to have a routine, better not to disrupt it. If want to spend time with her, can bring her out after her naptime at 3.30pm. Naomi has been feeling insecure and confused, as you have only brought her out without her sisters, and it has never happened before. I's appeared that you are targetting at her only. She's caught between our tussle. She might be young, but she's human after all. She know that we are having problem, but she just don't know how to express it only."
After all that saying, he just said he need to think over the weekend and give me an answer later.
I took my chance, and brought up the topic of divorce. I should have known, he's still unready for that. It proved to be a mistake. He reacted strongly, very defensive and reactive. He's very persistent in his thinking, he can't seperate the issues that our marriage no doubt has broken down, but we can still minimize the distress to the children. Anyway, he has been inactive in the children lifes. All this while, the children have never asked me for their daddy, lifes have been as usual, other than their sudden interests in Naomi only.
Since we can't reached a settlement or conclusion, I ended the topic, and he left angrily.
Before he left, as usual, he said dont's agitate him anymore. He got high blood pressure, blah, blah........
I just closed the door, glad that he's gone.