Decision still firm

Sunday(16/11/08), I never expect him to join for dinner. His father never mentioned either, just called to say he's coming.
I was surprised to see him along. We went to Swensen for dinner at United Square. Like previously outing, we never exchanged a words nor eye contact.
To me, it was an outing with the children and his father. I understand they are trying to patch thing up for him, but it makes me despise him more.
This is your marriage, not your parents, yet it's your parents who is doing on behalf of you. They are the one who show concern to the children. Whereras the father is doing nothing. No words has been asked regarding the children, and definitely no action.
I do not want to clarify my decision with them. I'm worried it will repeat history. They will "invite" all their relatives to my flat, and hurled insults at me again. Honesty speaking, I'm tired and hate these cycle.
Our problems have been solved nor untied slightly, it's just accumulating, from molehill to mountain. When thing explode, he will get his parents and relatives to clear the his mess. And if I don't relent, they will give me hard time, targetting my weak points (my kids).
I see no meaning to our marriage. More like a marriage to his parents. I'm subject to his parents obedience, and tolerance to his constant unpredictable mood swing. I'm tired and no wish to continue this maze.
For now, I will just flow along, till the lawyer's letter send, then I will "reaffirm" them my decision. Predictably, it will be another ugly round of battle, as usual. Hopefully it's only what I think.