I finished reading this book on Saturday (11/07/09). It was very inspirational as it talked about the author journey from childhood to adult and his experiences with his sexual abusive mother and subsequently physically abusive stepfather.
As far as he can remembered, his mother sexual abuse started when he was 4 years old. Since young, he has differentiated 2 side of his mother – the good mummy and the evil one. His mother was caring, concern and involved in his affair but once she started drinking her brandy, she became violent, aggressive and often went to his room and asked him to rub her “Minnie”.
Of course at 4 years old, he still too innocent to understand that this was actually wrong and he thought that it was a special time between them.
His parents divorced when he was 5 or 6 years old, prior to that his father was already not participative in his growing childhood, naturally he followed his mother.
Repetitive sexual abuse happened occasionally whenever his mother got drunk. Gradually, he realized that what they are doing isn’t right, but has no one to turn to, it doesn’t help that he doesn’t have much friends in school let alone someone who can confide in the abuse.
Growing towards adolescent, his mother remarried a old man 35 years her senior, and he treated him nicely initially, then all of a sudden became physically abusive. He has kept mum from his mother.
Eventually he retaliated, and the physical assaults stopped, but not his mother. She had grown to be more daring, and asked him to make love with her, which he rejected.
Feeling the urge to leave a confused home, he signed up for fire service at the age of 20 and moved out. In between, he decided he had enough of his mother drinking destruction, and they stayed apart for 4 years.
At the age of 27, he bought a book on memory and 8 months later he competed and won to rank 4th in the world. Eventually he beat an 18 years old boy to hold the Guinness World record. He tapped on his new found ability and moved towards the corporate world where he became successful.
At the same time, he met a wonderful divorced lady with 2 kids, but he got along very well with her kids, and through her he blurted out the long held secret he buried. With her encouragement, he decided to patch with his mother, but never did he brought up the issue on the sexual abuse.
1 year later, his mother died of alcoholic induced heart attack, and till the end, he never found the reason for her behaviors.
He has been through a lot and yet he’s managed to put his past away and forgives his mother. I find that it’s very encouraging of his act, and not many could do it.
As far as he can remembered, his mother sexual abuse started when he was 4 years old. Since young, he has differentiated 2 side of his mother – the good mummy and the evil one. His mother was caring, concern and involved in his affair but once she started drinking her brandy, she became violent, aggressive and often went to his room and asked him to rub her “Minnie”.
Of course at 4 years old, he still too innocent to understand that this was actually wrong and he thought that it was a special time between them.
His parents divorced when he was 5 or 6 years old, prior to that his father was already not participative in his growing childhood, naturally he followed his mother.
Repetitive sexual abuse happened occasionally whenever his mother got drunk. Gradually, he realized that what they are doing isn’t right, but has no one to turn to, it doesn’t help that he doesn’t have much friends in school let alone someone who can confide in the abuse.
Growing towards adolescent, his mother remarried a old man 35 years her senior, and he treated him nicely initially, then all of a sudden became physically abusive. He has kept mum from his mother.
Eventually he retaliated, and the physical assaults stopped, but not his mother. She had grown to be more daring, and asked him to make love with her, which he rejected.
Feeling the urge to leave a confused home, he signed up for fire service at the age of 20 and moved out. In between, he decided he had enough of his mother drinking destruction, and they stayed apart for 4 years.
At the age of 27, he bought a book on memory and 8 months later he competed and won to rank 4th in the world. Eventually he beat an 18 years old boy to hold the Guinness World record. He tapped on his new found ability and moved towards the corporate world where he became successful.
At the same time, he met a wonderful divorced lady with 2 kids, but he got along very well with her kids, and through her he blurted out the long held secret he buried. With her encouragement, he decided to patch with his mother, but never did he brought up the issue on the sexual abuse.
1 year later, his mother died of alcoholic induced heart attack, and till the end, he never found the reason for her behaviors.
He has been through a lot and yet he’s managed to put his past away and forgives his mother. I find that it’s very encouraging of his act, and not many could do it.
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