Discussion with lawyer - 1st hearing

Yesterday morning, I’ve an appointment with my lawyer for a pre-hearing briefing. It was to brief me on the procedures and what might happen.

He told me that Aaron’s lawyer sent a letter to request for an adjournment, so he needs to know my position.

Naturally, I don’t agree. I told my lawyer that this case has been dragging very long, and I find it meaningless to continue dragging. He agreed too.

So after some discussions, we decided to still go ahead with 16th June 2009 court hearing, but I need not be present. He predicted that they will ask directly from the judge since I refused to accede to their request.

Since it’s our 1st hearing, the judge will usually grant their request. But he said that it’s doesn’t mean that the case is not progressing. Even though, the judge allows adjournment but in between they will be required to file their defense, in another way the case is progressing.

I’ve expected them to request for adjournment so when the lawyer told me, I was mentally prepared. Base on my understanding of them, they would resort to these.

Firstly, Aaron is still recuperating, thus he’s not in “shape” to handle such big blow. Secondly, Aaron needs to provide his side of defense and I don’t even think they told him yet.

We have a relatively short discussion and I left for work hurriedly (I took time-off just to attend to this).

Somehow I have a very mixture of feeling. My heart felt lighten knowing that there’s some indication in my case, but at the same time I felt sad knowing my marriage soon-to-be over.

I will be sad and disappointed; after all we have been married for 5 years. Not a long time, but definitely not short either, and if no love for him, I wouldn’t even feel sad. Emotionally, I’m reluctant to let go, but logically, I’m aware of our problems, despite my effort in minimizing our conflicts, it just doesn’t work. It’s takes 2 hands to claps and I can’t be always giving in to him like his parent; that’s unhealthy. Besides, I can’t tolerate any longer with his parents’ interference in our marriage as well as their over-protectiveness of Aaron.

Time will heal the wound, and life still carry on with or without him………………..