Show down

Finally I received Aaron’s defense and counter claim on Friday (21/08/09). I actually don’t mind he put all the faults to me, and I don’t feel the need to resonate that caused the marriage to break down.

But I was forced to retaliate as his claims are simply too much. He changed the story around and accused me of breaking the family and that’s fine with me, but what he wanted are beyond my agreement.

He wanted the custody of Naomi and Natasha with reasonable access to me, equal division of the flats and/ assets, provide maintenance for them and bear his entire legal costs.

He is trying to take advantage of me, thus I was advised to retaliate his claims and defense. I will never give up their custody and for this reason I will fight him back.

Mt intention was never to wash all the dirty linens in the public and saved some face for him. Apparently he doesn’t appreciate, and tries to take over their custody. So over the weekend, I have to prepare my assignments as well as my side of the story in regard to his claims.

I presumed Aaron acted out of revenge or anger. He is too narrow-minded. Eventually we the judge will base on both our faults and grants the divorce. So what Aaron is doing now is just wasting our time. He already has the intention to divorce too just he wants to be in the good light.

Basically I’m fine with it. If feeding to Aaron’s ego of being right makes him feels good, then by all means. It’s doesn’t matter a lot to me from the way I see it. Whoever right or wrong doesn’t alter the fact that our marriage has broken down irrevocably, and pointing fingers at each other is just going to create more hostility in return will affect the children.

I believed if children are involved and the marriage has broken down, then we should try to settle this as amicable as possible for the benefits of them. Only the start of the divorce already there are so much arguing, then what about the subsequent stages. I thought we have been separated for so long and our anger should have cooled down significantly thus we should be more rationale.

Seems like Aaron has not, and he will not see our marriage breakdown from another angle…………..